Self-Imposed Mom Guilt: Where Impossible Standards Come From and How to Set Ones You Can Live With
IN IT with Jordan Harper and Ashley BucklerShow Notes
If you're someone who feels guilty lying on the couch while your spouse is up and moving, or who fills every spare minute so you never feel like you're wasting time, you'll recognize yourself in this conversation. Mom guilt is real, but a lot of it is a story we tell ourselves.
This is a girlfriend chat about mom guilt and where it actually comes from. We talk about why our worth isn't tied to our productivity, how the expectations we carry often trace back to the way we were raised, and why setting your own standards (like being home for bedtime or capping how many nights you travel) can loosen guilt's grip.
We get honest about trying to be full-time at everything, the trad wife and girl boss algorithms pulling us in opposite directions, and why being a seven out of 10 in some areas right now is more than okay. We also talk about protecting your energy, staying connected to friends when you can't keep up with the group chat, and why the words you put after I am matter so much.
Wherever you are in this season, you're not navigating it alone.
Mentioned in this episode:
Essentialism by Greg McKeown Start with Yourself by Emma Grede
Hype song: New Name Written Down in Glory by Charity Gayle and David Gentiles
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