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Anjelah Johnson-Reyes on Having A Kid at 41, Postpartum Rage Towards Fathers, & Supporting Mothers

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From not wanting kids, to loving being a mother to one, Anjelah Johnson-Reyes joins The Mom Room this week to talk about motherhood and her new standup comedy special Ugly Baby. She shares her experience going through IVF, getting pregnant at 41, and how her purpose has shifted after having her child. Renee and Anjelah discuss the early stages of motherhood, intrusive thoughts, and share their theories on why postpartum rage towards the father happens. They also relate on wishing that they had done a better job being a support system for their friends and family who have gone through childbirth, now knowing how hard that postpartum stage really is. In addition to touring her standup comedy and recording her new special, Anjelah has her own podcast called Funjelah where she dives deep with her guests, creating a safe space for them to open up about the things they are grateful for in their life. Check out her podcast and special down below!

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