Show Notes
David Thomas — co-founder of Daystar Counseling and co-author of the new book Capable — joins Levi and Jennie to unpack why chasing our kids' happiness might actually be setting them up to fail. From three kids under age two to a grandmother who asked one piercing question his whole life, David breaks down the "three C's" (coping, competence, challenges) and why loving our kids sometimes means letting them struggle. Plus: the running story that changed how he parents.
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Subscribe for more exclusive content: https://levilusko.com/hitl-subscribe Time Stamps: 00:00:00 – Welcome David Thomas (no, not the Wendy's guy) 00:04:23 – How a running family got made, mile by mile 00:07:08 – The accidental path from advertising major to child counselor 00:12:57 – Grandma's question: "Did you make yourself useful today?" 00:16:54 – Why chasing happiness sets kids up for a hard adulthood 00:25:37 – Inside the new book: Capable 00:31:30 – Pampering vs. preparing: the parenting swing to avoid 00:37:11 – The three C's: coping, competence, challenges 00:46:23 – "Moving outward": the coping strategy his daughter taught him 00:52:52 – Capable Connections: what sons need from mom, daughters need from dad
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