Wise Mind: A DBT Podcast

The Need to Belong & the Signals That Get in the Way

Wise Mind: A DBT Podcast

Show Notes

The Need to Belong & the Signals That Get in the Way In this episode of Wise Mind, Raich and Maddy explore why humans are wired for connection and why loneliness, rejection and abandonment can feel so painful. We unpack the science of social signalling and how our facial expressions, body language and behaviours influence the quality of our relationships. Drawing on DBT and RO DBT, we discuss how trauma, overcontrol and emotional inhibition can unintentionally block connection, and share practical strategies to strengthen belonging, improve relationships and reduce loneliness. Join us as we explore the hidden signals that shape our social world and how small changes can make a big difference. The best way to support us is to like, follow, and subscribe to Wise Mind: A DBT Podcast 💙 If you're loving our episodes and want even more Wise Mind each week, head over to our Patreon! You'll get access to: Weekly bonus episodes A chance to connect with our community Exclusive DBT resources and content Thanks for being part of the Wise Mind community, we couldn't do it without your support! 💙 Find all details and register at: www.wisemindcollective.com.au

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Acknowledgment of Dr. Marsha M. Linehan and the Origins of DBT We honor Dr. Marsha M. Linehan, psychologist and professor who created Dialectical Behavior Therapy. It’s thanks to Dr. Linehan that DBT has become a proven intervention for a range of mental health challenges. Wise Mind A DBT Podcast gratefully acknowledges that DBT is Dr. Linehan’s work, not ours, and we honor her legacy.

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