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Jay sits down with Jake Shane for a candid conversation about fame, anxiety, OCD, dating, body image, and the pressure of living online. Together, they unpack what it takes to stay grounded when your life is constantly on display and why the hardest relationship to navigate is often the one you have with yourself. We all face moments when comparison, self-doubt, or the opinions of others begin to shape how we see ourselves. This conversation is an invitation to reconnect with who you are beneath the pressure, and to remember that your worth has never depended on perfection or applause. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty A State Farm agent can help you choose the coverage you need. Like a good neighbor, State Farm is there. Visit: https://www.statefarm.com/ Use code PURPOSE10 for 10% ataltrarunning.com/onpurpose. Free Shipping and Free 30-Day Trial. Visit: https://www.altrarunning.com/ On Purpose is now Netflix and Spotify exclusive http://www.netflix.com/onpurposewithjayshetty https://open.spotify.com/show/5EqqB52m2bsr4k1Ii7sStc?si=33f7898fb334437c JAY’S DAILY WISDOM DELIVERED STRAIGHT TO YOUR INBOX Join 900,000+ readers discovering how small daily shifts create big life change with my free newsletter. Subscribe https://news.jayshetty.me/subscribe Check out our Apple subscription to unlock bonus content of On Purpose! https://lnk.to/JayShettyPodcast What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Intro 00:01:55 The Habit That Changed My Life 00:02:38 What Should You Actually Journal? 00:03:28 Get Your Thoughts Out of Your Head 00:04:26 Understanding Confession OCD 00:04:50 Creating a Safe Space 00:05:43 What If I Become Unrelatable? 00:07:26 What Would Younger You Think? 00:08:25 Right vs. Wrong 00:09:38 Talking About Private People 00:10:32 Dating as a Gay Man 00:12:24 Transforming Your Body 00:13:15 Making Peace With Your Past 00:15:41 Choosing the Right People Around You 00:17:22 Learning to Be Misunderstood 00:20:24 The Healing Power of Sitting in the Shower 00:22:26 What Weed Really Does to Your Brain 00:23:26 Keep Something Just for You 00:24:52 When People Don't Like You 00:29:00 Internet Drama Isn't Worth It 00:30:33 Don't Profit From Misfortune 00:31:28 The Truth About Cancel Culture 00:32:30 Gossip Stays Private 00:33:03 The Three Rules of Gossip 00:34:50 What Is a Crash Out? 00:35:50 My Three-Month Crash Out 00:37:22 Functioning Through a Crash Out 00:38:58 Facing Your Biggest Fear 00:41:15 When Public Opinion Hurts 00:43:27 Finding Your Spark Again 00:44:29 Does Everyone Know Too Much? 00:48:03 Biggest Dating Red Flags 00:49:37 Living With Constant Criticism 00:51:35 Jake's Dating Rules 00:52:47 The Wild Things We Do for Love 00:53:37 The 72-Hour Rule 00:55:32 Are You Ready for a Relationship? 00:56:29 The Fear of Living Alone 00:57:27 What Makes a Good Friend? 00:59:23 Which One Ruins Your Day More? 01:03:19 Gut Reaction with Jake 01:06:00 Jake on Final Five Episode Resources: YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/@passthatpuss Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/passthatpuss TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@octopusslover8 Therapuss | https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapuss-with-jake-shane/id1723626781
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