Why are we so hard on ourselves in motherhood? Perfectionism explored with Catherine Counihan
Sleep like a baby?Show Notes
Are you holding yourself to the highest standards as a mum? Have you noticed a cycle of self-criticism creeping in? What happens when perfectionists and people pleasers have babies? This week's guest, Catherine Counihan, is an Integrative Psychotherapist working in private practice in London. Cath specialises in complex trauma, perfectionism, nervous system healing, shifting dysfunctional patterns in our families and reparenting. One of her areas of expertise is how our own childhoods impact our parenting journey. Her passion is to shift shame and help each client gain an embodied sense of being good enough. Our shame voices do not speak the truth! Cath had done a lot of personal trauma therapy prior to kids and, despite this, was set back to emotional ground zero by motherhood. Cath hosts a weekly podcast 'Grow Yourself Up' focused on how we can learn to tend to ourselves in adulthood when we have not had our needs met as children, and the challenges of doing this as we parent. She also writes, has taught at the Bowlby Centre in London and will begin teaching for the International Attachment Network in Sept 2023. She is accredited by the UK Council for Psychotherapy (UKCP) and has nearly 12 years of clinical experience. Cath had a previous career in financial services and is the mother of 7 year old twin girls. Insta: @cathcounihanFB: Cath Counihan - Psychotherapy MumLinkedin: Catherine Counihancatherinecounihan.co.uk
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