The Parent Trap | How Caretaking Kills Desire [Room for Two Preview]
Conversations with Dr. JenniferShow Notes
Johnny is done being controlled.
His faith shift made him realize just how much every decision he ever made was shaped by others — and he's not interested in that anymore. In his newfound freedom, he's been experimenting with substances in a way that's unsettling for June.
When she says something about his choices, he responds like a rebellious adolescent.
Staying quiet feels easier, of course, but Johnny's choices are having a real impact on her, and she's not sure where her responsibility ends and his begins.
In this preview episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife works with Johnny and June around the parent/child dynamic that is stifling the intimacy in their relationship.
This preview episode will resonate with listeners who:
Are in a mixed-faith or post-faith-shift marriage Are navigating a partner's substance use Feel like their spouse's parent Crave more intimacy and connection
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