Show Notes
To end a recent series on the coach-athlete relationship, in this bonus episode of the Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast, David Charlton is joined by Dr John Perry, Head of Department of PE and Sports Sciences at the University of Limerick, researcher, former coach and performance analyst, to explore how coaches can better support athletes through the lens of mental toughness.
The conversation explores why coaches have such a powerful influence on athletes' habits and environments, how agency and behavioural standards can strengthen control, and why confidence should come from within rather than being outsourced to results, selection or feedback.
They also discuss how coaches can create challenging environments that encourage growth without fear, why mistakes should be accepted as part of development, and why commitment is often misunderstood as a character issue rather than a cognitive skill linked to attention and focus.
This is a rich, thought-provoking episode for coaches, parents and athletes who want to understand how to create environments that develop stronger, more self-aware and resilient performers. >> Key Takeaways · Great coaching helps athletes develop agency by focusing on behaviours, habits and standards they can control. · True confidence is stable and internal, it should not depend on results, selection decisions or external praise. · Commitment is often misunderstood; many so-called commitment errors are actually cognitive errors linked to attention and focus. If you enjoyed this episode, check out the other parts of this mini-series and our previous podcasts on the coach–athlete relationship: Ep311 – Learning Orientation: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep310 - Risk Orientation: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep309 - Interpersonal Confidence: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep308 – Confidence in Ability – When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep307 - Achievement Orientation: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep306 - Goal Orientation: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep305 – Emotional Control: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Ep304 – David Charlton - Life Control: When Coaches and Athletes Think Differently Connect with David Charlton · Sign Up To The Mental Edge · Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub · LinkedIn
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