You’re So Strong… But What If I’m Not? | Leslie Harter-Berg

What do you say to someone who is grieving when you don’t know what to say?

In this episode, Pam sits down with Leslie Harter-Berg—speaker, writer, founder of Vids for Wids, and author of You’re So Strong: On Grief and Letting Go of My Favorite Compliment. After losing her husband suddenly in 2019, Leslie found herself navigating unimaginable grief while raising her two young sons.

Pam and Leslie talk about the things people say with the best intentions, including “You’re so strong,” “I can’t imagine what you’re going through,” and “If there’s anything I can do, just let me know.” They explore what grieving people actually need, how family and community can show up, and how to offer meaningful support when you don’t know exactly what to do.

Rather than keeping her grief private, Leslie chose to use her story to help others. Through Vids for Wids, her writing, and her honest—and often hilarious—Instagram posts, she has created community for widows and widowers who are learning how to move forward while carrying loss.

You’ll laugh, you may cry, and you’ll walk away encouraged to show up with more courage, compassion, and intention for the people walking through hard seasons.