BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

155: Why You're Addicted To Someone Who Hurts You

BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko

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Join The Unbothered Woman: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/unbotheredwoman If you've ever felt completely powerless to walk away from someone who keeps leaving you feeling empty, confused, and never quite enough no matter how much you give, this video is for you. In this podcast I break down why smart, self-aware women get addicted to emotionally unavailable and inconsistent men, what is actually happening in your nervous system when you can't stop going back, why simply knowing your worth will never be enough to break the cycle, and what identity-level transformation actually looks like and why it's the only thing that breaks this pattern for good. → Pre-Order my NEW Book: Unbothered: The Art of Letting Go to Find Yourself by Margarita: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/unbothered-book-preorder → Pre-ordered already? Claim your bonus: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/pre-order → FREE: The Unbothered Reset: 30 Days to Become Her. Every day for 30 days, you’ll receive a short email. Start the 30-Day Reset: https://www.margaritanazarenko.com/unbotheredreset → The New Rules Book: https://linktr.ee/thenewrulesbook → HER Journal: https://margaritanazarenko.myshopify.com/products/her-journal Courses aren’t public anymore, join via email.

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