Show Notes
In this eye-opening episode of Ask Dr. Sterling, Dr. Sterling sits down with licensed perinatal therapist Gayane Aramyan, LMFT, to dismantle the common myth of maternal instinct—that every mom will feel an immediate, overwhelming bond with their baby. Together, they explore why bonding doesn’t always happen instantly and why it’s normal. From physical recovery and mental health to a baby’s unique temperament, Dr. Sterling and Gayane unpack the complex realities of early motherhood. They also discuss how to stop blaming yourself, reframe unrealistic expectations, and embrace self-compassion during one of life’s biggest transitions. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The Myth of Maternal Instinct: Why society’s idea of an “instant bond” can be harmful—and what bonding really looks like. The Factors That Influence Bonding: How recovery, mental health, and even a baby’s temperament impact the early connection. Reframing Expectations: Practical ways to stop self-blame and embrace the learning curve of motherhood. When to Seek Support: Tips for identifying when to ask for help and how to access resources for postpartum mental health.
Why You Should Listen: If you’ve ever felt guilt or shame for not feeling an immediate bond with your baby, this episode will leave you feeling seen, validated, and supported. Dr. Sterling and Gayane provide a compassionate perspective, reminding moms that love and connection take time—and that there’s no “right” way to become a mother. Resources Mentioned: Gayane Aramyan, LMFT: Follow Gayane for more perinatal mental health insights. Sterling Parents Membership: Access tools, expert guidance, and resources to support you in pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond. Postpartum Support International: (Postpartum.net) Find additional resources and support for postpartum mental health.
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