Show Notes
Parents today have more resources, information, and support than ever before—yet anxiety, fragility, and emotional struggles among children continue to rise.
In this conversation, bestselling author and counselor David Thomas joins Josh to explore a difficult question: Have our good intentions as parents unintentionally gotten in the way of raising capable, resilient kids?
Together they discuss:Why confidence grows from competence—not constant praise How over-helping can undermine a child's resilience The surprising connection between failure and emotional health Why happiness should never be the primary goal of parenting The dangers of "rescuing" kids from every struggle How healthy boundaries create security What today's anxiety epidemic reveals about modern parenting Why children need opportunities to struggle, fail, and recover Practical ways to build capability at every age David also shares one simple challenge every parent can implement this week to begin raising children who are resourceful, resilient, and prepared for life.
If you've ever wondered whether you're helping your child too much—or how to raise kids who can thrive in an increasingly fragile culture—this episode is for you.
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Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 1:15 David Thomas joins the show 4:00 The extreme swing parents took to rescue kids from hardship and rob them from being capable 9:50 Why youth mental health became the crisis of our day 13:50 The decrease in stress around the house when kids are capable 16:28 The problem with being committed to your child’s happiness 20:27 The two consequences of kids raised to be happy and the resultant relational fallout we’re unknowingly preparing them for 26:28 The most effective 19-word phrase to use with your kids 30:20 The strategy for helping your kids F.A.I.L. 34:45 How family estrangement and language inflation is impacting relationships 42:05 The most practical way to start building capability in your kids
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