Show Notes
Talking about sex should not be this hard, and yet for so many people, it still is.
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Tara, tenured professor of relational sexual communication, host of the Luvbites podcast, and author of How Do You Like It?, to talk about what actually makes a sex life and a relationship work. We cover everything from why emotional safety is the real prerequisite for good communication, to how shame shows up in our relationships long before we ever talk about kink.
Dr. Tara shares what she teaches her university students about sexual communication across the lifespan, from sexual debut to long-term partnership, aging, and everything in between. We talk about why most people were never taught how to talk about sex, money, or desire, and how that lack of language quietly impacts intimacy.
If you have ever struggled to ask for what you want, felt disconnected from a partner, or wished there was a guidebook for navigating intimacy, this episode will give you clarity, language, and a lot to reflect on.
Episode Highlights: 00:00 Sexual Communication and Education 08:43 Emotional Safety in Relationships 17:50 Personal Divorce Stories and Lessons Learned 18:42 Communicating About Money and Sex in Relationships 22:30 Essential Communication in Relationships 25:22 Understanding Sexual Preferences and Polyamory
Grab a copy of her book: How Do You Like It?: A Guide for Getting What You Want (in Bed) https://amzn.to/4iWt60a
Connect with Dr. Tara https://www.luvbites.co/ https://www.instagram.com/luvbites.co/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCrbW6PCKjgcxkq3dTvjjeyQ https://open.spotify.com/show/2SZ60RxLOyQ900l4PgJAlT
Join the Couples Retreat! https://www.amandadames.com/couples-retreat
Get your BDSM Checklist here: https://www.amandadames.com/bdsmlist
Connect with Me: https://www.tiktok.com/@thekinkconsultant https://www.instagram.com/the_kinkconsultant/
More from The Kink Consultant
In the final installment of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down what to do if your partner says no or freaks out when you share your kink.
In part two of this special three-part solo series, I am breaking down exactly how to have the conversation with your partner about your kink.
In the first episode of a special three-part solo series, I am breaking down everything you need to know before you tell your partner you are kinky.
Melanie Rose, star of Netflix's How to Build a Sex Room, joins the podcast to discuss sex room design, the history of sex toys, and how to create a pleasure space that works for your body and your relationship.
The hosts of The Kinky Cocktail Hour join the podcast to share their 24/7 D/S dynamic story, how they evolved their relationship over time, and why kink is the way they communicate.