Show Notes
Are you nervous about independent surrogacy?
Uncertain about managing it all yourself?
Afraid you'll miss a crucial step?
Or maybe you’re wondering if this is a barely legal, out of the box thing that puts you and your baby at serious risk.
You’re not alone in feeling this way because most people don’t know the truth about independent surrogacy.
Plus there’s a whole industry designed to keep it that way
But, as usual, we’re here to share secrets and help you make the rights decisions for you!
In this episode, you'll hear:
06:23 The basics: What is independent surrogacy and why do people choose it?
7:37 Why believing that independent surrogacy is “DIY” could lead to unnecessary stress
12:58 Independent surrogacy is not professional-free. The role of your expert team.
18:04 What skeptics won’t tell you: It’s perfectly legal
21:24 With the right resources and step-by-step guides, it’s easier than you think.
26:54 A surrogacy agency isn’t your only option for finding a surrogate
31:16 The truth about cost savings in independent surrogacy
Unpopular opinion… If you can manage a project, then you can handle independent surrogacy with confidence.
Ready to demystify independent surrogacy and take control of your journey? You’ve got to listen to this episode—get all the insights and tools you need to succeed!
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Links mentioned in the episode
Step by Step Guide & Checklist
Surrogate Vetting Essentials
The New York State surrogacy agency license
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