Why You Keep Choosing Emotionally Unavailable People | Mercedes Coffman
The Adversity Advantage with Doug BopstShow Notes
Mercedes Coffman, LMFT, is a seasoned Marriage and Family Therapist known for her insightful, compassionate approach to emotional healing and relational growth.
Today on the show we discuss how inconsistency can make relationships feel addictive, why chemistry is not always the same as compatibility, how love bombing and emotional highs can dysregulate your nervous system, the difference between emotional unavailability and manipulation, why childhood wounds can cause people to chase the wrong partners, how trauma bonds actually work, why safe love can feel boring at first, and how to rebuild self-trust so you can choose healthier relationships.
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