158. Holidays With a Narcissistic Mother: How Not to Lose Yourself
Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited MothersShow Notes
The holidays can become incredibly mother-centered even when you’re working really hard to set boundaries. You’re thinking about whether she’s coming. How long you’ll stay. What she might say. Whether she’ll be angry. Who she’ll call afterward. Whether you need an exit plan. How you’ll respond if she makes a scene. And suddenly, she has taken up most of the emotional real estate of a holiday that is supposed to belong to you, too. This week on Mayhem, I want us to think bigger than holiday boundaries. Who else belongs in your holiday? What traditions actually matter to you? What would make the season easier on you?What do you need before and after the difficult parts? And what part of the holiday could have absolutely nothing to do with your mother at all? You may not be able to create a holiday without grief, guilt, fear, or difficult people. But maybe you can create one with a little more room for you.
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