Self-Helpless

How Judging Others (and Yourself) is Sabotaging You with Jessica Frew

Self-Helpless

Show Notes

Delanie Fischer chats with Jessica Frew, author of Shove Your Shoulds, about building confidence around decision-making. They dive into practical strategies for identifying and shifting out of “should” thinking, learning to make value-based decisions (big or small) more swiftly, and overcoming the overwhelm that can keep us stuck in indecision.

Episode Highlights:

How to Build Your Decision-Making Muscle

Identifying Your Daily “Shoulds”

Looking for “Proof” vs. Trusting Your Gut

When to Stay or Leave a Situation

7 Practical Tips for Getting Decisive

Why Judging Others Is Hurting You Most

The 1 Small Decision To Make When Overwhelmed

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