Show Notes
On the 119th episode of the What is a Good Life? podcast, I’m delighted to welcome Tom Asacker. Often described as a creative force, albeit a wayward one, Asacker has been an artist, CEO, corporate advisor, award-winning inventor, and professional magician. He’s a student of the human psyche and the author of several best-selling books on belief, human behaviour, and personal transformation. Since childhood, he’s been collecting and deciphering observations about all of the strange ways that people think about and behave in the world. For the past 25 years, he’s been endlessly improvising, searching for ways to communicate an art of living that confronts conditioning and embraces freedom. His latest attempt is his new book, Unwinding Want: Using Your Mind to Escape Your Thoughts.
In this illuminating conversation, Tom shares the incoherence of his childhood experiences and how they led him to question the nature of beliefs and the human condition. We discuss the role of the thinking mind, the illusion of control, and the significance of feelings over societal conditioning in guiding actions, as well as the prioritisation of relationship over goals. Ultimately, this conversation is an invitation for our inner spirits to emerge and to live the lives we truly want.
For more of Tom's work, check out the following: Tom's book and website: https://www.unwindingwant.com/ Tom's Newsletter: https://unwindingwant.substack.com/
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00:00 Why do people believe what they believe? 03:41 Seeking stability or something to lean on 06:15 The calming of the thinking mind 09:35 Feeling what we want and responding to that 13:50 Revealing of the illusion 17:55 Dancing with life 24:30 Feeling alive and focus of attention 28:38 Allowing an expression of our feelings 34:20 We do things for a feeling that doesn’t come 37:50 The prioritising of relationship 47:50 Wants from feelings versus conditioning 52:20 The role of suffering and confusion in revealing 58:39 Playing with our minds rather than controlling 1:04:34 What is a good life for Tom? Keywords: Meaning of Life Interviews | meaning of life conversations | exploring life | big life questions | meaning of life discussions | creating a meaningful life
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