Kingdom Sexuality

307: What Your Spouse Really Needs Before Sex Happens

Kingdom Sexuality

Show Notes

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The biggest thing sabotaging your marriage is not a lack of communication, it’s what happens when your spouse’s heart doesn’t feel safe. Josh Straub breaks down why emotional safety matters for deeper intimacy, and shares a simple daily practice couples can try to start moving closer to each other!

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Approximate Time Stamps:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

0:00 — Emotional Safety in Marriage

0:35 — Welcome & Guest Introduction

1:42 — Meet Josh Straub

3:58 — What Is Famous at Home?

5:47 — Defining Emotional Safety

9:38 — Sponsor Message

10:40 — Working Through Fear and Defensiveness

14:47 — Building Emotional Awareness

17:21 — The 15-Minute Connection Exercise

21:15 — When a Spouse Is Guarded

25:31 — Why Communication Isn’t Enough

27:44 — The Intimacy “Four to Six” Trap

30:01 — Emotional Safety and Sexual Intimacy

36:25 — Different Paths to Connection

39:43 — Rethinking Purity Culture

43:26 — Rapid-Fire Marriage Advice

44:29 — Connect with Josh

44:59 — Closing Prayer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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