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Growth is supposed to feel uncomfortable, and that feeling isn't a sign you're on the wrong path.This week I sat down with Alexandra Milne, for one of my favourite conversations yet. We talk about why your brain is biologically wired to resist change, how to get comfortable being uncomfortable, and why most of the "huge" decisions keeping you stuck are actually two-way doors. Alex also shares why work-life balance for high achievers isn't a perfect equilibrium but a series of seasons, and why the female stress response means we hold onto things so much longer than men do.We also get real about accountability, self-talk, and the pressure of being a fitness creator online, plus the daily "I am" mindset practice Alex uses to rewire her brain and stay on track with her goals.If you've ever stayed stuck because change felt scary, beaten yourself up for not being perfect, or struggled to hold yourself accountable, this episode is for you!In this episode we cover:• Why discomfort is a sign of growth (and the caveman biology behind it)• One-way vs two-way door decisions and how shame keeps us stuck• Why balance is a myth and how to shift between work and life seasons• How the female cortisol response works and why knowledge builds self-acceptance• Stopping the excuses: accountability, data, and being honest with yourself• Using "I am" statements every morning to rewire your mindsetFollow Alexandra on Instagram @alexandramilne_ and check out her coaching membership, Zone Six.Connect with me 💌👩🏼‍💻 Enquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetloungepodcast/📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganeldrett/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@morgan.eldrett?_r=1&_t=ZS-94yTIxHuFrE🖥️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@morganeldrettTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Intro00:31 – Controlling your thoughts in a hard season05:08 – Why balance doesn't exist (it's seasons)08:56 – Why growth feels so uncomfortable12:01 – One-way vs two-way door decisions16:42 – The female vs male stress response20:52 – Hormones, your cycle & why knowledge is power24:56 – Accountability: stop lying to yourself31:19 – Just keep going: failure, pivots & perspective39:22 – The pressure of being a fitness creator online46:09 – Rewiring your brain with "I am" statements51:01 – Where to follow Alexandra

Would anyone stay till the end of the movie of your life, or would they walk out halfway through? In this solo episode, I share the game I've been playing lately: treating my life like a movie and choosing to be the main character, not the sidekick or the NPC things just happen to. We talk about main character energy, using the "act as if" technique to build confidence before you feel ready, and why being a little delusional is what makes a life worth watching. It's a 3-step mindset shift that gets you to stop living for the audience and start living for you. If you've been playing it safe, waiting to feel ready, or living the version of your life you think other people want to see, this episode is for you! In this episode we cover: How to choose your character: getting clear on the goals, values and style of the person you actually want to be Why acting as if is really just practice, and how your brain catches up to your actions The four words that can change your whole life: "what if I just…" Doing it for the plot, and why safe and comfortable makes a boring movie How to become the watcher of your own life so failures stop defining you and start building your hero's journey

"The fear of staying in this forever became greater than the fear of change."Content note: this episode talks openly about eating disorders and recovery. No specific behaviours are discussed, but please look after yourself while you listen.For every year of my twenties, I had an eating disorder. Every birthday I wished this would be the year it stopped, and every year the shame got heavier. This year I finally told someone and got help. This episode isn't about what bulimia took from me. It's about eating disorder recovery, what I got back, and why the things I was most scared of losing turned out to be the opposite.If you've been quietly struggling with your relationship with food, telling yourself it's "not bad enough" to get help, or you're scared that recovery means losing your discipline and your identity, I want this episode to take some of that fear away. Scary things aren't bad things.If you've ever felt like your eating disorder is the only thing keeping you in control, this episode is for you!In this episode we cover:- Why I was so scared of recovery, and why everything I feared ended up being false- How disordered eating can hide behind discipline, routine and "looking healthy"- Telling the difference between your eating disorder voice and your healthy self- Why there's no light bulb moment, and what actually helped me heal- Keeping discipline in recovery by channelling it into the rest of your life- Your questions: intuitive eating, food noise vs an eating disorder, and whether bodybuilding was to blameIf you're struggling, you don't have to do this alone. In Australia, you can contact the Butterfly Foundation on 1800 33 4673. Wherever you are, please reach out to your local eating disorder support service or someone you trust 🤍Connect with me 💌👩🏼‍💻 Enquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetloungepodcast/📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganeldrett/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@morgan.eldrett?_r=1&_t=ZS-94yTIxHuFrE🖥️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@morganeldrettTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Intro: a wish every birthday02:20 – Why this episode is about recovery03:40 – An eating disorder nobody could see07:00 – Why I was so scared to get help20:50 – No light bulb moment: what actually helped24:30 – Keeping discipline, pointing it somewhere new29:45 – Shame, secrecy, and "it's not bad enough"31:25 – Telling someone for the first time35:35 – Your questions: tracking, intuitive eating and food noise44:50 – Was bodybuilding the cause?

You spent years becoming the "perfect" version of yourself, so why does hitting the goal feel like nothing? Eugene Teo built one of the most respected names in fitness as a competitive bodybuilder, then walked away from the physique he was known for. In this episode we get into identity, self-worth, and what happens when the thing you've tied your whole sense of self to stops serving you. Eugene is refreshingly calm and clear about it: the discipline was never really about the body, and the moment he stopped chasing what he "should" look like was the moment everything opened up. We talk about why achievement can leave you empty, how fear quietly drives so much of our "motivation," and why he thinks the real skill is learning to redirect who you are instead of clinging to who you were. If you've ever felt lost stepping away from a sport, a goal, or an identity you outgrew — or you're stuck doing what you think you should do — this episode is for you! In this episode we cover: Why "killing off" an old version of yourself is the scary, necessary price of growth How Eugene separated his self-worth from how his body looks The fear hiding underneath most "discipline" and goal-chasing Why burnout isn't from doing too much — it's from doing the wrong things How to get "delusional" enough to build a life that stands out Learning to tell the difference between your intuition and your old programming

You don't need a whole life overhaul to feel like yourself again — you need to stop doing what you think you should be doing.It's the second day of spring, and after what felt like a two-year winter, my spark is finally back. In this solo episode I'm walking you through the five things that actually did it for me — not optimisation protocols or a perfect morning routine, but real shifts that brought my energy, passion and joy back to life. This is about getting your spark back in September, feeling alive again, and giving yourself permission to want a different kind of life.If you've been feeling flat, stuck, or like you're just going through the motions, this episode is for you!In this episode we cover:- Why returning to your childhood obsessions is the fastest way to feel alive again- How "the shoulds" quietly drain your spark — and how to let them go- Creating more than you consume (and why it's not just about social media)- Spring cleaning your routine without overwhelming yourself- Why a late night with friends can beat a perfect night's sleepYou can also find the written breakdown and notes for this episode on Substack! 📖 Subscribe to my substack (it's free): https://open.substack.com/pub/morganeldrettConnect with me 💌👩🏼‍💻 Enquiries: [email protected]📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindsetloungepodcast/📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganeldrett/📲 Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@morgan.eldrett?_r=1&_t=ZS-94yTIxHuFrE🖥️ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@morganeldrett🥦 1:1 Health & Fitness Coaching Apply here: https://form.jotform.com/250682685688071🔗 Velocity Activewear code MORGAN https://velocityactivewear.com.au/?ref=MORGANELDRETTTIMESTAMPS:00:00 – Intro: getting your spark back02:46 – The two-year winter03:43 – The 5 things (overview)03:52 – #1 Return to your childhood roots06:41 – #2 F*** the shoulds08:38 – #3 Create more than you consume10:27 – #4 Spring clean your routine12:05 – #5 Make time for friends14:25 – How to merge them together17:49 – The one that matters most