Sex Crimes Prosecutor Turned Women’s Intimacy Coach - A Conversation with Rena Martine
The Kink ConsultantShow Notes
Let's talk about the thing no one wants to touch: DDLG, innocence play, and why "daddy" has become the internet's new favorite word.
In today’s episode, I sit down with Rena Martine, author and former sex crimes prosecutor turned women's intimacy coach, for one of the most honest conversations about taboo fantasies, shame, and reclaiming pleasure without apology. We dig into why powerful women crave submission, what innocence play actually means (spoiler: it's not what you think), how survivors sometimes use kink for healing, and why society will sell you slutty Halloween costumes but shame you for the desires behind them.
This episode is permission-giving, unflinching, and absolutely necessary. If you've ever felt shame for wanting something "wrong," this conversation is your permission slip to want what you want.
Episode Highlights: 00:00 Rena's Journey from Prosecutor to Intimacy Coach 15:15 Understanding DDLG and Age Play 28:37 Exploring Society's Double Standards 29:38 Privilege and Normalizing Taboo Discussions 31:09 Non-Monogamy and Societal Judgments 32:16 Polyamory and Public Perception 37:25 Kink Acceptance and Media Representation 42:54 Navigating DDLG Dynamics 47:48 Empowerment Through Kink
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