Show Notes
Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out. In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you even if your "one great thing" slipped out of reach. We often tie our worth to a specific outcome, believing that if we just get that one thing, everything will be perfect and we’ll finally be "good enough." But what if that disappointment is actually a mirror? In This Episode, We Cover: The "One Great Thing" Trap: Why we mistakenly give external milestones the power to validate our entire existence. Sitting in the Lane: The radical act of allowing yourself to feel disappointment without rushing to fix it or force a pivot. Who Are You Becoming? Shifting the focus from what you can get to who you are growing into while you wait. Key Takeaways to Carry With You: "Sometimes we have to just sit in that initial lane of disappointment for the things that we don't get, that we had our heart set on. That doesn't mean that goodness is not for you. It just means that it's gonna look different than what you imagine.""Sometimes there's a lesson in the waiting. And it's not so much about what you can get, but about who you are becoming or who you are growing into as you wait."
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