The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers

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The Psychology of Depression and Anxiety - Dr. Scott Eilers

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What if the reason you struggle to feel loved isn't that you're incapable of love, but that you've learned to protect yourself from it? Childhood emotional neglect, depression, and past relationships can create patterns that make intimacy feel threatening, even when you're with someone who genuinely cares about you.In this conversation, I sit down with relationship and attachment expert @Dr.SarahHensley to explore anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, and how childhood experiences shape our adult relationships. We also discuss why emotional suppression can contribute to depression, why successful people can struggle with intimacy, and whether attachment styles can actually change.If you've spent your life keeping people at a distance, we discuss how to begin building emotional safety, processing difficult feelings, and developing healthier relationships without abandoning the parts of yourself that learned to survive. If my podcast has helped, my new book, The Light Between the Leaves, goes even deeper Next Steps: 📩 Get Practical tools for navigating life with depression and anxiety, delivered weekly. About me: I know what it is to feel hopelessly stuck and worthless to the world in general. I also know what it is to live without those feelings. I’m both a Clinical Psychology specializing in treatment-resistant depression and anxiety, and a human who has spent more than a decade managing sever depression and anxiety. Mental Health Coaching with me Therapy with me (for people in Iowa) Find me on YouTube Resources 🪣 Get my free 5-day guide to reclaiming your time and energy despite mental health struggles. 😴 Dramatically improve your sleep in 2 steps with my new Sleep Workbook. 📖 My 1st book: For When Everything is Burning Disclaimer: This content is not intended to be a replacement for receiving treatment. It is purely educational in nature. My relationship with you is that of presenter and audience, not therapist and client. But I do care.

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