The Hook Up

What It Means If You Like Getting Caught Or Watching People Have Sex

The Hook Up

Show Notes

Over half of you told us that the idea of being caught having sex turns you on! So why are so many people into this? In this ep, Dee chats to sexologist Laura Lee to delve deep into the psychology of this kink, the ethics and nuance of consent, and the best way to live out your fantasy of watching people or being watched in real life. SHOW NOTES: Getting Caught Ep - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Yx76xUZ5cE Laura Lee IG - https://www.instagram.com/lauraleesexology/?hl=en DM us your thoughts, questions, topics, or to just vent at @triplejthehookup on IG or email us: [email protected] The Hook Up is an ABC podcast, produced by triple j. It is recorded on the lands of the Wurundjeri people of the Kulin nation. We pay our respects to elders past and present. We acknowledge Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples as the First Australians and Traditional Custodians of the land where we live, work, and learn.

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