The Francesca Psychology Podcast

Trauma Expert: How to Rebuild Self-Identity After Years of Shame - Tim Fletcher

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Tim Fletcher is a researcher and counselor with over 30 years of experience, specialising in the field of Addiction and Complex Trauma recovery. I’m launching a course on FINDING LOVE that explains how to heal unhealthy patterns and find a healthy relationship. Join waitlist here - https://tr.ee/bIUJlW-oyZ1:1 Life Coaching - https://tr.ee/7S2Xi6rtodFREE QUIZ: The 5 Patterns Blocking Healthy Love - https://tr.ee/ZVRec4up_VFREE CBT eBook - https://tr.ee/eziT_m9aymNew Book Waitlist - https://tr.ee/9EWZAp0OZm 00:00 Intro02:08 What Is Complex Trauma?08:33 Dissociating As A Trauma Response12:09 Can You See Trauma in Someone's Eyes?17:00 Family Roles Created by Trauma26:15 Why Trauma Creates Deep Shame32:00 Low self worth vs shame34:20 Why Trauma Makes You Feel Like a Burden41:19 Rebuilding Your Identity After Trauma50:10 How Trauma Affects Relationships53:30 How Wound Of Abandonment Ruins Relationships55:05 How To Heal Wound Of Abandonment58:55 Why Trauma Makes You Feel Like You Don’t Belong01:01:39 Feeling Like An Outcast Like A Kid01:05:15 How To Recover From Bullying01:06:46 Trauma & Intimacy01:13:37 Healing Your Intimate Life After Trauma01:20:35 How to Let Go of a Relationship01:24:22 What Is Maladaptive Daydreaming?01:27:25 Scenarios Before Bed01:31:38 The Foundation of Trauma Healing01:37:49 Signs You’re Healing From Trauma

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