Show Notes
Toxic workplaces come in many different forms that we might not always notice.
And because we aren’t all affected in the same ways, even the most well-meaning managers can unintentionally contribute to an unhealthy culture if they aren't paying close attention.
Aoife O’Brien is an organizational psychologist, leadership expert, and author of Thriving Talent. Her work focuses on helping organizations create environments where people feel psychologically safe, aligned to meaningful work, and able to perform at their best.
In this conversation, we explore what actually makes a workplace toxic, practical ways to spot the early warning signs of an unhealthy culture, and clear, everyday actions you can take to foster trust, respect, and psychological safety. Because culture is something you create moment by moment, not something you merely declare.
Conversation Topics (00:00) Introduction (02:21) Types of Toxic Workplaces (and How They Develop) (06:17) Why Toxic Cultures Persist and How to Start Changing Them (10:06) A Framework for Building Thriving Workplaces (13:17) Fostering Psychological Safety at Every Level (17:58) Understanding What Actually Drives People at Work (21:05) Meeting Individual Needs (25:54) One Thing Managers Can Do Tomorrow (28:12) Closing Thoughts and Book Recommendations (31:04) [Extended Only] Gaining Awareness of Your Strengths (34:07) [Extended Only] Managing Conflicting Strengths on Teams (37:35) [Extended Only] Structuring Collaboration So Different Strengths Shine
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