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Molly Lambert on pOCD, Shame, and Finding Acceptance: The OCD Theme No One Talks About

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Show Notes

Description: ⚠️ Content warning: this episode contains discussion of suicidal ideation and themes that some listeners might find distressing. pOCD — pedophilia-themed OCD — is one of the most misunderstood and stigmatised subtypes out there, and Molly Lambert has lived it. In this episode, Molly shares what her intrusive thoughts actually looked and felt like: from existential anxiety to fears about being a paedophile, magical thinking, emotional checking, and the spiral that nearly broke her. She talks honestly about suicidal ideation, how TikTok helped her find her way, what it took to finally share her thoughts with others — and what acceptance can actually look like on the other side. Laura, Jess and Molly also dig into how common pOCD really is, why it tends to hit the people it does, how therapy helped, and why Molly now advocates publicly for OCD awareness (including how she handles the inevitable backlash). Plus: postpartum mums and pOCD, the role of drinking and distraction, and Molly gets involved in the Brain Spam feature 🧠 Podcast by Laura Mole, Adv. Dip, MBACP OCD specialist therapist and Jessica Hayes, Msc PGDip, BABCP Accred OCD and perinatal specialist therapist Featuring Molly Lambert, OCD and mental illness advocate Edited by Christian Nickson

Timestamps: 01:00 Hellos 01:30 Introducing Molly Lambert 02:57 What were Molly's thoughts like? From existential anxiety to paedophile fears 05:20 Magical thinking and checking emotions 09:20 When the pOCD started to spiral 14:40 How common is pOCD and why does it happen? 16:45 Thinking about suicide 17:30 What helped Molly realise it was OCD? 19:30 How drinking and distractions fit in 20:50 How TikTok helped 23:45 Other themes sneaking in 25:30 Starting to share the thoughts with others 28:30 Sharing with family 30:10 Advice for sharing — and Molly's experience of others' reactions 31:20 Therapy for Molly's OCD 35:47 Pursuing an OCD diagnosis 41:15 What acceptance can look like 45:00 Laura's OCD Doris 46:00 OCD help needs to be personalised 47:15 Molly's advocacy work for OCD 53:12 How Molly deals with negative feedback online 58:00 Postpartum mums and pOCD 1:04:50 How do Molly's friends and family help? 1:07:00 Where to find information and support 1:12:12 What did 15-year-old Molly need to hear? 1:14:33 Brain Spam 1:18:50 Wins of the Week 1:20:00 Avoidance in pOCD 1:20:25 Exposure Lab 1:22:30 Goodbyes

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