Fight, Flight or Freeze | Facing and Choosing the Unknown or Hard Things (Re-Air)
The Irish Mummy Podcast | Work Life BalanceShow Notes
When we think about fight or flight, that is usually when we think back to our biological days when people were more vulnerable and basically your digestive system and things would start to slow down to make sure all the extra blood would go into our muscles, giving them the opportunity to fight or take flight. One thing we don’t think about often though is that some of us just freeze, meaning we get stuck and we just freeze and there is no progress at all. This applies to life when we are doing something and experience fear or lose passion for that thing.
Feeling stuck 2:19 Going to the different stages 5:52 When you just need peace and are attached to your beliefs 9:56 Assess your own life 14:23
“There’s this false economy of oh well I’ve done this in the past and it made a difference, so I’ll just do more of it, but then it just becomes ineffective, and then you think ‘Well I’m not doing enough of it, so I need to do even more of it,’ and then you start just getting so hectic. I was listening to a podcast today and there was something really interesting that was like you can either be stressed worrying about how to pay your bills, or you can be stressed with the stewardship of creating something big.” 4:28
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