Show Notes
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You can feel them closing in. The relatives.
The outstretched arms. The chorus of "just one more cuddle" and "they don't look tired" and "pop them in the spare room, they'll be fine." You're holding your baby a little tighter, watching the clock, doing the mental maths on wake windows while someone offers you another glass of wine and asks why you're leaving so early.
This episode is for you.
Sally and Bec know that protective instinct. They've felt the pressure of being the one who "makes it difficult" by prioritising sleep. And they're here to tell you: you're not dramatic. You're not controlling. You're the one up at 3am if this goes sideways, and that means you get to make the call.
They share the strategies that actually work: hosting so you control the nap setup, wearing your baby in a carrier to manage who gets access, pre-setting departure times with no room for negotiation.
Plus personal stories including Bec's infamous Fiji wedding incident involving her mother-in-law and two ice creams.
Say it with us now... • Prioritising naps doesn't ruin the magic (it protects it) • Step up and set expectations with family before the day • Have a carrier strategy for managing who holds baby and when • Know what to say when someone insists they don't look tired • Handle feelings when they get hurt by your boundary • Embrace the 80/20 approach: when to flex and when to hold firm • You're not neurotic for prioritising sleep • You're not neurotic for prioritising sleep • You're not neurotic for prioritising sleep • You can leaving on time without guilt
Chapters: 00:00 Intro: your holiday boundary pep talk 04:37 The 80/20 lifestyle and when to flex 06:51 Strategy 1: hosting so you control the nap setup 08:48 Strategy 2: wearing baby in a carrier 11:07 Managing family expectations and comments 12:41 What to do when the plan goes sideways 14:43 Why someone else's disappointment isn't your problem 16:59 The payoff: well-rested kids everyone enjoys 19:51 When naps fail in front of an audience 21:07 Bec's Fiji wedding double ice cream disaster 25:51 The mental load behind every nap decision 28:37 Other boundaries: solids, kisses, and choking hazards 30:05 Scripts for setting expectations ahead of time 31:07 Wrap-up: Boxing Day rot and recovery
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