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Judy Vee is the originator of the Codex System and author of What Is Mimic and What Lies Beyond It? She describes the Codex System as a structural model of human function and behavior that identifies distortions beneath recurring thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Her work examines why self-aware people continue repeating patterns despite practicing mindfulness or managing their beliefs and emotions. Judy encourages people to reclaim personal authority, remove what is not authentically theirs, and live from their unique expression rather than continually managing themselves. Most Influential Person - Her husband, Tiny Effect on Emotions - “When I’m finding myself emotional, I understand that it’s a form of distortion.”- “I stop and ask myself, ‘Who or what has authority just before I expressed or felt that emotion?’”- “No one can make me feel anything. Only I can.” Thoughts on Breathing - “I use breath and how we are breathing as an indication of how much distortion is going on in our life in that moment.”- “We are designed to breathe naturally.”- Rather than managing or fixing the breath, remove the interference “so that breath can return.” Suggested Resources - Book: What Is Mimic and What Lies Beyond It? by Judy Vee- Apps: Judy recommends scuba diving rather than an app.- Practice: Ask what happened immediately before stress, anxiety, overwhelm, emotion, or altered breathing arose—and who or what held authority.- Practice: Identify your authentic “move,” act from personal authority, and treat the outcome as data. Bullying Story - Judy experienced extensive bullying and realized around age 15 that she wanted her heart to stop beating because of someone else, revealing how much authority she had surrendered.- She says a bully may leave someone’s life while their rules continue shaping behavior through fear of rejection, proving one’s worth, staying small, or monitoring others’ perceptions.- Her work seeks to identify and remove the underlying “interference” or “distortion,” rather than merely helping people manage bullying’s consequences.
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