Why She Stayed

Ep. 101: The Power in Seeing the Cycle Unfold Close Together

Why She Stayed

Show Notes

In this episode, Hannah shares her story of what happens when coercive control slowly changes who you are.

One of the things that ultimately helped Hannah leave was seeing the cycle of abuse unfold in such a short, compressed period of time. When the highs, lows, conflict, consequences, and reconciliation began happening so close together, she was able to see the pattern more clearly—and recognize that this wasn’t a series of isolated incidents.

She also shares how he would repeatedly tell her that she needed to get out and pack her things. This became a powerful way of reversing victim and offender and shifting responsibility onto her.

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