Show Notes
How do you know if you’re actually dealing with a narcissist, and what do you do once you realise you might be?
In this episode, I sit down with relationship expert, coach and author Lorin Krenn for a deep dive into narcissism, toxic relationship dynamics, gaslighting and the patterns that can make it so difficult to leave.
We unpack the clearest signs of narcissistic behaviour, why a lack of genuine accountability matters more than simply saying “sorry,” how narcissists can manipulate your perception of reality, and the difference between someone with unhealthy traits and someone who consistently refuses to take responsibility for the pain they cause.
We also explore why empathetic people can find themselves stuck in toxic relationships, what happens when a narcissist feels they’re losing control, spiritual narcissism, narcissistic parents, the wounded masculine and feminine, and how to protect yourself without losing trust in love altogether.
Lorin also shares practical advice for anyone questioning their relationship, including why writing down what actually happened can help you regain clarity when you’ve been made to doubt your own experience.
In this episode:
• The clearest signs of narcissistic behaviour • Narcissistic traits vs a narcissist • Gaslighting and losing trust in your own reality • Why genuine repair matters more than an apology • Why leaving a toxic relationship can feel so difficult • What happens when a narcissist loses control • Spiritual narcissism and toxic gurus • Narcissistic mothers, fathers and family dynamics • The wounded vs divine masculine and feminine • How to stop abandoning yourself for connection • Rebuilding trust after a toxic relationship • Finding healthy love after narcissistic abuse
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering, “Am I the problem?”, constantly questioning your own reality, or trying to understand why someone you love refuses to take accountability, this conversation is for you.
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