How Quickly Does Their Problem Become Yours? Ditch Auto-Accommodating and Stay in Your Lane with Terri Cole
Self-HelplessShow Notes
Delanie Fischer chats with licensed psychotherapist Terri Cole about high-functioning codependency (HFC) and how to set healthy boundaries to prevent burn out, resentment, and feeling underappreciated. They explore signs like auto advice-giving, auto-accommodating, and keeping the peace at all costs, and uncover why many try to control others unknowingly. Terri shares actionable tools for shifting these over-functioning behaviors to let go of what’s not your responsibility—freeing up your time and energy while empowering those around you.
Discussed in this episode:
Busting The Biggest Codependency Myth
Hyper-Independence and Anticipatory Planning
Auto Advice-Giving and The Auto-Yes
Taking Your Resentment Inventory
Let Them Be The Hero of Their Story
Escaping the Cult of Nice
5 Scripts for Setting New Boundaries
How To Identify a Transference
Primary vs. Secondary Gain
8 Questions to Ask Before You Fix or Rescue
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