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What Happens When We Betray Ourselves With Jessica Pressler

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Why do we so often find ourselves repeating the same painful relational patterns even after promising to choose differently?

In this episode, therapist and author Jessica Anne Pressler joins us to unpack how early protective survival strategies can evolve into adult self-sabotage. By shifting our attention from dissecting a partner's flaws to understanding our own internal boundaries, we move away from reflexive self-abandonment and step toward deep self-compassion and relational security.

Main Talking Points:

Unpacking Internal Self-Sabotage

Reframing Childhood Coping Mechanisms

Navigating Narcissistic Relationship Dynamics

Overcoming Relational Self-Abandonment

Cultivating Deep Self-Awareness

Integrating Protective Inner Parts

Healing begins not by fighting the parts of us that try to keep us safe, but by offering them the self-compassion and internal leadership they were always looking for.

Connect with Jessica Anne Pressler:

Jessica Anne Pressler's Website: https://www.jessicaannepressler.com

Jessica Anne Pressler's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessicaannepressler

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