2 Under 2: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly.. Shuana Watson Gives Us Her Experience Managing & How She Reflects On It Now
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In this episode of Becoming Both, I sit down with Shauna Watson (@Motherly.Doula), a mum of two, to chat about what life can really be like when you end up with two babies under two. It’s one of those conversations where everything is discussed as she opens up about finding out she was pregnant again sooner than she expected, the guilt that hit her hard, and the mix of emotions that came with trying to mentally prepare for another newborn while she was still deep in the trenches with her first. We talk about her postpartum journey, which was far from easy! She shares how isolating and overwhelming it felt, especially while dealing with a colicky baby who cried constantly and a toddler who was also going through big feelings and big behaviours. She gets really honest about the moments where she questioned herself, the days she cried in the shower, and the nights where she felt like she had nothing left to give. It’s raw and emotional, but in the most relatable way. At the same time, there’s this beautiful shift in her story. She talks about the pride she feels now, how strong she became without even realizing it, how she learned to show herself more grace, and how touching it’s been watching her kids slowly become each other's little best friends. You can hear how much love she has for them, even in the hardest moments. We recorded this because so many mums go through these feelings in silence and I have had SO many mums show interest in this story as it was also their reality. This episode is meant to feel like a big exhale, a reminder that if you’re struggling, you’re not broken and you’re definitely not alone, you're just dealing with something bloody hard. Shauna and I hope it brings comfort and validation to anyone who’s been in the thick of newborn-and-toddler life and just needs to hear another mum say, “Yep, this is hard… and you’re doing better than you think.” Find me over on insta @becomingboth @doulamarley and find the lovely Shuana over at @motherly.doula I hope you love this episode! Please leave a 5 star review or a comment to share your thoughts x
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