Show Notes
This week on Good Moms, Bad Choices, we sit down with Bre-z, the multi-hyphenate artist, actress, barber, and breakout star from All-American. She opens up about the unplanned audition that landed her on Empire, what it means to "become smaller" when you become bigger, and why she's finally stepping into who she was meant to be at 38. From Atlanta's underground lesbian club scene to Hollywood's brightest stages, Bre-z gives us the raw truth about representation, identity, and reclaiming your power.
You can expect to hear: How a random client phone call led to Empire and completely shifted her life trajectory Transitioning from a barber with 20 years of clientele to full-time acting The unique pressure and paranoia that comes with unexpected fame Finding groundedness when you enter Hollywood at the highest level Black lesbian representation on television and the responsibility that comes with it Stepping out of the masculine closet and reclaiming her authentic identity Dating, relationships, and planning a future with intention as a same-sex couple The healing power of water, nature intimacy, and listening to your body How being present and intentional actually changes what shows up for you Self-care rituals: baths, walks, probiotics, and intentional Coca-Colas Why Atlanta lesbians were incredibly cliquish (and still kind of are) Coming into her sexuality without shame or apology Her upcoming music and why she's saving her sluttiest stories for the album Tarot readings, the Seven of Cups, and what the universe was trying to tell her
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