Know Your Zero: The Tom Hanks Trick for Raising Confident Kids (with Presilah Nunez Davis)
The Boss Mom PodcastShow Notes
What does getting a fast pass at Universal Studios have to do with building a business? More than you'd think. This week Dana sits down with Presilah Nunez Davis, founder of The Finer Points, a coaching practice built at the intersection of performance psychology, neuroscience, and modern etiquette. Presilah spent over a decade as a working actor before motherhood shifted her focus, and she now teaches the exact skills, presence, eye contact, recovering from mistakes gracefully, that separate the person who commands a room from the person who shrinks in it. This conversation will change how you think about what you're teaching your kids, and what you never got taught yourself. You'll hear: Why "etiquette" is really just the hyper-awareness of the feelings of others The 2 a.m. Instagram scroll that turned into an entire business Why Dana teaches her kids to "ask for the ketchup," and what that has to do with pricing your work The "know your zero" framework for understanding your own natural presence The acting class critique that reframed everything Presilah teaches about perfectionism Why "the fourth grader is king" and imperfection is what actually builds connection Five simple ways to start building confidence in your kids today This is for any mom who wants her kids (and honestly, herself) to walk into a room and stay in it. Mentioned in this episode: Presilah on Instagram: instagram.com/presilah The Finer Points: discoverthefinerpoints.com BossMom Community (free): bossmom.com/community BossMom+: bossmom.com/join
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