Show Notes
In this episode, Tim and Andy dive into one of the most challenging parts of healing from complex trauma: boundaries. Together they explore why boundaries often feel confusing, scary, or “selfish,” and how unhealthy family systems shape the rules we grow up with. Tim explains the difference between internal and external boundaries, why willpower alone isn’t enough, how shame and fawning affect our ability to hold limits, and what loving, sustainable boundary-setting actually looks like in real relationships. If you’ve ever struggled to stand up for yourself, collapsed around other people’s emotions, or felt guilty for having needs, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and practical tools for change.
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