I’m Not Responsible for How Others Feel, But Should I Still Care About Their Feelings Anyway?
Renew You with Quinn KellyShow Notes
We have all heard that we aren’t responsible for managing others’ feelings because we can only manage our own feelings. But what if what you do and say hurts others? Should you care about their feelings then? In today’s episode, Quinn discusses how to process the fact that healthy people should not feel responsible for others’ feelings but how often that can feel cruel or harsh toward those that we have hurt. In the episode, Quinn empowers listeners to dig deeper and understand:
1. What letting go of responsibility of others’ feelings does for our decisions 2. What two extreme ways of thinking to avoid 3. What To Do When Someone Is Hurt by Our Decisions Mind Renewal Tip: While we are freed of guilt for our needs and wants when we stop trying to manage others’ emotions, we can still feel compassion for their hurt. They are not mutually exclusive. Scripture Renewal Tip: "Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Colossians 3:12
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