Soft Girl Era

Softness After Survival: Boundaries, Power, and Healing Inspired by Tenika Findlay

Soft Girl Era

Show Notes

In this episode, LeAnne Dolce shares transformative insights from her conversation with Tenika Findlay, exploring how surviving narcissistic abuse, family trauma, and profound loss can become the foundation for powerful leadership, clear boundaries, and authentic business vision. Discover why softness after survival is not weakness, but a strategic and radical act of self-preservation and empowerment for Black women professionals and entrepreneurs. Learn how your most painful chapters can be reframed into frameworks that serve others, and how choosing healing, rest, and boundaries can unlock new possibilities for your life and work.

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