Show Notes
Here is episode 1 of Series 11 of my podcast: Conversations with Annalisa Barbieri.
I’ve long been fascinated with the idea of good enough, not only in mothering but, actually, for so many things. We tend to live in a world of extremes now: things are amazing or awful. Yet most of us live in the ordinary, the ‘enough’.
In this episode chartered clinical and counselling psychologist, psychoanalyst and a fellow of the British Psychoanalytical Society Professor Alessandra Lemma and I discuss what it is to be a good enough mother, a phrase coined by the the paediatrician and psychoanalyst Donald Winnicott in the 1950s. We talk about what might matter and what really doesn’t, and it might not be what you think.
Perhaps it will trigger your own memories of childhood and you can ponder on what really did matter.
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