The Confidence Chronicles

Fear Can Become Your Greatest Teacher

The Confidence Chronicles

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I had someone ask me recently: "What are you actually scared of?" And it made me realise something... I'm scared all the time. Not because I'm doing something wrong. Because I'm constantly building, creating and stepping into bigger rooms. In this episode, I share why fear has become one of my greatest teachers, how I've stopped seeing it as something to avoid, and why the opportunities you're dreaming about are almost always hiding on the other side of uncertainty. If you've been waiting to feel confident before making your next move, this conversation is exactly what you need. In this episode: • why confidence doesn't come before courage • how to use fear as fuel instead of letting it stop you • why uncertainty is part of creating anything meaningful • the mindset shift that helps you focus on possibility instead of worst-case scenarios You don't need to eliminate fear. You simply need to stop believing it means you shouldn't go for it. READY TO BUILD YOUR AUTHORITY, CONFIDENCE & PERSONAL BRAND? 📖 GET ERIKA'S BOOKS → Becoming Magnetic (Penguin Random House, 2025) → Confidence Feels Like Shit (2020) Available here: https://shop.thequeenofconfidence.com/collections/book Also available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble and all major audiobook platforms. 📩 GROW YOUR FANBASE Learn the timeless skill that turned my 1,000 followers into a 7-figure global business. https://courses.thequeenofconfidence.com/offers/TKhTxM3n/checkout ♟️ THE QUEEN'S TABLE My high-level mentorship for ambitious women ready to build visibility, influence and lasting success. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-queens-table/ ✨ THE NEXT LEVEL Build your confidence, audience and income. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/the-next-level/ 🎤 BOOK ERIKA TO SPEAK For conferences, corporate events, leadership programs and women's events across Australia and the USA. https://thequeenofconfidence.com/speaking/ 📲 FOLLOW ERIKA Instagram https://www.instagram.com/thequeenofconfidence/ LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/erika-cramer-queenconfidence/ Website https://thequeenofconfidence.com TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@thequeenofconfidence 👑 LISTEN TO THE CONFIDENCE CHRONICLES Spotify https://open.spotify.com/show/2MUxtupRLNGB8cuNC9mwXI Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-confidence-chronicles/id1439434022 YouTube https://www.youtube.com/@thequeenofconfidence All podcast platforms https://thequeenofconfidence.com/podcast/ 🙏🏽 LOVED THIS EPISODE? Subscribe, leave a review and share this episode with someone who's ready to stop letting fear make their decisions. Chapters

00:00:00 Fear Can Become Your Greatest Teacher 00:00:20 Welcome to the Confidence Chronicles: Stand in Who You Are 00:01:17 My Face Hurts From Smiling: Everything Is Finally Working Out 00:02:30 I'm Always Scared: The Truth About Living in Fear 00:03:06 Confidence Feels Like Shit: The Reality of Chasing Your Dreams 00:03:50 Born and Raised in Uncertainty: My Beautiful Relationship With the Unknown 00:04:52 Life Is Unknown: The Whole Thing Is a Question Mark 00:06:19 Your Brain Is Amazing at Being Right: Stop Looking for the Bad 00:08:22 Fear and Excitement Feel the Same: Choose Your Story 00:08:53 We're Going to America: Embracing Possibility Everywhere 00:10:13 I Was Petrified of My TEDx Talk: Using Fear to Fuel You 00:10:37 What If Everything You Want Comes True? 00:11:50 There Is No One on Planet Earth That Isn't Scared of Something 00:13:22 Let Your Fear Fuel You, Not Freeze You 00:13:38 You Want a Big Life? Buckle Up, It's Going to Be Petrifying 00:14:23 See You in Boston: FFFCon 2026

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