
Therapist Laura Reisman Helps Us Reconnect With Ourselves And Our Intimate Relationships
Trying To Be Positive With Anne MatthewsShow Notes
Join us as we sit down with Laura Reisman to discuss the complexities of fertility treatment, its impact on relationships, and mental health. Laura shares her personal journey through miscarriage and the change it sparked in her professional focus towards perinatal mental health. The conversation addresses the importance of communication between partners, managing emotional and physical intimacy during fertility treatments, and the concept of therapy as a space to express and understand one's feelings without judgement. Laura offers insights into maintaining and strengthening relationships amid fertility struggles, emphasizing the value of setting realistic expectations and finding joy in life despite challenges.
Laura Reisman @lr_therapy
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00:00 Intro
04:15 Navigating the Emotional Rollercoaster of Fertility
13:26 The Importance of Self-Advocacy and Control in Fertility
20:11 Lifestyle, Perfectionism, and Finding Balance
26:00 Dealing with Grief and Moving Forward
35:33 Navigating Fertility Challenges: Strategies and Emotional Support
40:01 Enhancing Intimacy and Communication in Relationships
44:35 Addressing Libido and Intimacy Issues: Understanding and Solutions
50:58 Reconnecting and Rekindling: Strategies for Intimate Partnerships
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