Show Notes
Which parent should be the one doing the settling at bedtime? Can you tag team? What happens if you tap out mid-session? Sally and Bec get into all of it — and their answer might surprise you. Subscribe to the Nap Trapped newsletter for weekly sleep support: www.naptrappedpodcast.com
What You'll Learn Why Bec's default is mum first — and exactly when she flips that What happens when dad takes over and it's going well... then mum comes back in The breastfeeding-to-sleep trap: why the boobs returning changes everything Why one parent per resettling session is the non-negotiable rule The extinction burst on nights three and four — and why you don't want to swap parents right then What to do if you're a solo parent, a FIFO parent, or your appendix ruptures How Sally runs bedtime in her own house (alternating nights, electric blanket by 7.02 pm) Why both parents need to be able to settle, even if one is easier right now
Chapters 00:00 Intro & celebrating Bec's three-peat family 05:38 Which parent should do the sleep training? 06:18 Why Bec prefers mum for the first three to four nights 07:38 The breastfeeding-to-sleep association problem 09:07 When dad should take the lead instead 10:19 Path of least resistance — and what that actually means 13:59 Don't rescue the other parent mid-session 15:31 Can you tag team? One parent per resettling session explained 17:18 When dad says "I think they want you" — Bec's take 19:02 What if your appendix ruptures? Future-proofing both parents 21:43 Sally's alternating bednight system at home 23:09 The extinction burst and why consistency is everything on nights three and four 25:20 Solo parents, FIFO families and the village mentality 26:03 Wrap up
About Nap Trapped Nap Trapped is hosted by Sally Woods (The Sleep Concierge) and Bec Maher (The Sleep Centre) — two sleep consultants, two mums, and zero patience for vague advice. Every Wednesday they bring you evidence-based, real-talk sleep support for tired parents.
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