Show Notes
Becoming a Mum is a lot, isn’t it?
The moment your baby is born your world has completely changed. As mothers we are often forgotten as it’s all about the baby and their needs. We know we cannot give our best to them if we don’t treat ourselves with kindness as mums. But sometimes we don’t find it that easy, do we?
If you want to learn simple, easy and helpful ideas on how to show yourself more kindness with joy and intention this episode is for you!
In today’s episode I speak to Rebecca Hogan, a Matrescence Coach and a mum of 1. Rebecca helps mums embrace their matrescence journey so they can truly enjoy it in their own unique way. She also supports mums through her online Mama Cocoon Meetups to help mums feel heard, seen, and understood in motherhood.
Topics covered in this episode:
· Rebecca’s matrescence story
· Postpartum challenges
· Responsibilities overload in motherhood
· Self-care ideas for new mums
· The Power of Self-kindness
· The Perfect Mother Myth
· Getting your Mama Sparkle back
This conversation was heart-warming, inspiring and kind. Hope it leaves you feeling positive, re-energised and hopeful that you can find your mama sparkle back when you treat yourself with more love and kindness for yourself, mama.
About Rebecca:
“Becoming a Mum was a lot for me! I felt really anxious that I wasn't doing a good enough job but I also felt a strong desire to maintain my own identity. Once I discovered the word and concept "Matrescence" I realised this is so normal and so healthy. I worked out through coaching how I could confidently blend living my life as a Mum and a woman in my own right too! And now I help Mums to embrace their Matrescence, their journey into and through motherhood, so they can relax into it and truly enjoy it in their own unique way.”
Rebecca runs The Mama Cocoon Events - a monthly meet up online via zoom for Mums to enjoy some relaxation time and have inspirational chats about the theme of the month and what we're going through in motherhood right now. Come as you are and feel heard, supported, and understood by a small, friendly, supportive group of Mums that really get what you are going through.
To learn more about Rebecca’s work visit the links below:
https://www.rebeccahogancoaching.com/
https://www.instagram.com/rebeccahogancoach/
https://www.facebook.com/RebeccaHoganCoachingTherapies
Download FREE Master Your Mama Mojo Guide >>
https://www.rebeccahogancoaching.com/masteryourmojo-freeguide
About your Host: Gosia Scarrott is a Business and Confidence Coach and a new mum to Olivia. She is passionate about empowering women to see and believe their worth so they can bring their unique fire to the world and Shine!
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