Show Notes
In this solo episode, Rachel dives into one of the most common yet rarely spoken about experiences in solo motherhood — the feeling of being stuck. Whether it’s emotional, mental, financial, or just that nagging sense that you’re not where you thought you’d be, this episode offers practical, empowering guidance to help you understand and gently work through it. Rachel unpacks why feeling stuck isn’t actually a feeling — it’s a thought pattern — and shares how journaling can be a powerful, affordable tool to get out of your own head and back into momentum. You’ll be guided through key mindset reframes, relatable examples from the single mum journey, and a set of powerful journal prompts to help you gain momentum again.
Journal Prompts from the Episode: 1. Why do I feel stuck?Start with these types of prompts so we can dig into exactly the concept above and figure out where the disconnect is starting: •What is the pattern in your life you are most frustrated by? What do you think this pattern means about you?•What areas in your life do you feel like you have no control over or feel powerless to change? If you are not able to affect this, who do you feel like is in control or has the power to change things?•What do you need to let go of that you might be holding on to?•How might you have been hiding or avoiding something you know you need to address but are hesitant or scared to face?
2. What do I want instead? These prompts are going to shift your attention to the desired state so you can begin identifying what to do next (take that power back gal!): •What do you want for your life that you might have been scared, ashamed or felt was greedy to want?•Who do you admire? What about them do you admire? If you could select pieces of their life that you’d copy+paste in to yours what would they be?•Who are you envious or jealous of? What are you drawn to about them? If you could select pieces of their life that you’d copy+paste in to yours what would they be?•If you had a magic time machine and could wake up tomorrow inside of your life a year from now and be living your absolute dream, what would it look like? What your day would look like at 6a, 9a, 12p 3p, 6p and 9p. -Many people have an idea of the logistics of their dream life - what kind of house they’d be living in, their relationships status, and how much money they’d be making - but they haven’t often considered what the experience of that life will be in between their ears. So while your external circumstances might change, the thoughts inside your head wont! A perfect example of why mindset and thought work is THE missing piece for many of us.
3. How to start getting "unstuck": Taking the insights gained from the previous section, we’re now going to shift our focus to the future. These prompts are going to focus you in on what is within your control and to zero in on the actions you want to take next to create change: •What stops me from having the thoughts (and eventually the beliefs) about myself that I want?•If you feel like you have amassed evidence that is counter to the beliefs that you want to have, what evidence might have you accidentally overlooked that would support your desired thoughts? (We are very selective in our memory and biased in our narration of our lives!) If you had to look for it, what proof could you find that you can have the thoughts you’d like about yourselves?•Considering the thoughts of those I admire, envy or dream life me, what could I change about my schedule that would make it easier for me to have those thoughts? What could I change about my logistics or surroundings to have those thoughts? What could I change about how I take care of myself to have those thoughts?
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