The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

81. Stop googling 'narcissists' - What Australian protective parents REALLY need to understand

The Post-Separation Abuse Podcast

Show Notes

If you’ve ever found yourself deep in Google searches trying to work out whether your ex is a covert narcissist, a malignant narcissist, or something in between… this episode is for you. Because here’s the truth: Understanding “narcissism” won’t help you protect your children. Understanding coercive control will. In this episode, Danielle Black explains why protective parents get stuck in the narcissism rabbit hole - and how it can keep them overwhelmed, confused, and focused on the wrong pro...

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