The Intimacy Inquiry

Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy

The Intimacy Inquiry

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Elana Auerbach on The Sure Thing: A Weekly Pleasure Practice for Lasting Intimacy Elana Auerbach, a sensuality guide and educator, discusses her book and “The Sure Thing” love experiment: a simple weekly pleasure practice designed to help couples replace sex struggles and performance pressure with reliable intimacy, desire, and joy. She shares her personal history of dissociation, sexual awakening, and her purpose as a “priestess of love and connection,” explaining how a 12-year desire mismatch with her spouse shifted after they committed in December 2020 to a weekly Saturday practice focused on connection rather than goals or orgasm. The conversation covers redefining sex beyond penetrative acts, addressing shame as “the elephant in the bedroom,” building the ability to ask for what you want, and how regular pleasure practices can improve relationships, family life, and community well-being. She also touches on consent, solo practice, non-monogamy as a choice, and future plans to expand the book’s reach and create audio guided visualizations. 00:00 Meet Elana Auerbach 00:57 Book Arrival Surprise 03:05 Teen Years Awakening 06:54 Calling and Priestess Path 07:56 Creating Weekly Practice 14:30 Why It Works 19:50 Redefining Sex and Pleasure 26:46 Practical How To Start 29:00 Preparing and Rituals 32:28 Requests and Knowing Wants 34:09 Inviting Partner In 34:39 Inviting Your Partner 35:54 Solo Pleasure Practice 36:46 Shame In The Bedroom 38:37 Naming And Healing Shame 42:35 When Desire Changes 46:46 Ask For What You Want 50:00 Pleasure Changes Everything 54:38 Designing Your Sure Thing 59:17 Monogamy Or Choice 01:01:21 Whats Next And Closing A special gift for listeners to the podcast: A guided journey to deepen with your wild, sensual self and connect with your passion and desire! https://guide.surethingexperiment.com/wild-sensual-self Website: https://surethingexperiment.com/ FB: facebook.com/ElanaAuerbachAuthor IG: https://www.instagram.com/elana.auerbach/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elana-auerbach-387875b3/

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