From premature birth to giving back through starting a charity: Rachael from Ickle Pickles | S3E52
The NICU Space by Miracle MoonShow Notes
Rachael and her husband, Andy, were thrown into the world of neonatal care 17 years ago when Rachael unexpectedly went into labour and their son, Charlie, was born at 28 weeks. This experience impacted the whole family immensely, and their determination to give back led to them starting Ickle Pickles children’s charity – a charity that raises funds for life-saving equipment that neonatal units desperately need.
In this episode, we’re chatting about: - The fear that surrounds premature birth - How her NICU experience led to her and her husband, Andy, starting a charity to give back - The work that The Ickle Pickles do - Why giving back can help with healing from your experience - How finding meaning can help with post traumatic growth - Her son Charlie’s life today and how he has been impacted by NICU
If you’ve been thinking that you’d like to give back after your NICU stay, in whatever form that looks like, today’s episode will certainly inspire you to do just that.
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