Ep202: Fostering community for men who tie men: An interview with Bondage Otter (part2)
Rope PodcastShow Notes
BondageOtter(he/they) is the founder of Rope Burn SF, the USA’s first ongoing masc-of-center, rope-specific play party + skill share, with his remaining energy spent volunteering for numerous gay organizations. A queer leatherman and rope switch, he maintains a private S/M practice while organizing public education and play programs for the community of people who want to tie masc-of-center bodies.
He commits a huge amount of his free time to successfully creating gay rope events and community, and in this episode shares some of his learnings on his journey in this area.
In the episode, hear about: • The structure of Rope Burn • Logistics of large rope parties with 50-70 people • Using rope events to invest back in the community • Founding the men tying men conference in 2024 • What the conference experience looks like for participants • Choosing the right educators for the conference • Learnings from year one • Managing safety at this type of big, complex event • What public versus private play looks like for him • And more!
Listen now on all podcast platforms. You can alsogo back to Episode 201 to hear part 1 of the interview.
BondageOtter (he/they) is a queer leatherman and rope switch who maintains a private S/M practice while organizing public education and play programs for the community of people who want to tie masc-of-center bodies.
He is particularly devoted to adapting Eastern aesthetic principles to the tying of larger bodies, honoring the history and feel of Japanese tying while opening it up to the erotic scenarios of the leather bar.
While he has studied with many official and unofficial teachers in Japan, Europe, and the Americas, he has primarily focused on the styles of Naka Akira, Akechi Kanna, and Yoroï Nicolas. He He enjoys sharing his style of play with others, aiming for scenes to be both hot and hurty, where the progressive restriction of freedom encourages creative forms of expression for both top and bottom.
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